Getting Married

So this week we talked a lot in class about getting married. It actually is really nice for me because that is exactly what I will be doing in a couple of months. But one thing I really enjoyed was listening about how a wedding should be. The most important thing that I think can happen, is that the bride and groom are able to really focus on the sealing, and realize that it is the most important part of what will be going on during their wedding day. I think we get caught up a lot of times in the parties and receptions, and we don't recognize the real importance of the sealing. After being married, as brother Williams said, we should build a picket fence around us and our spouse. This keeps us separate from our parents and families, and allows us to begin our own family together without other major family distractions. During the beginning months of being married, we should be able to get things in order like finances, time, resolving conflicts, jobs, etc. I thought it was very interesting the fact that in a bad marriage there are 10 significant areas of incompatibilities in the marriage. Also in a good marriage there are 10 significant areas of incompatibilities. This just proves that all marriages are tough, but we can make them work out only if we work together. The adversary is trying so hard in an organized effort to pull marriages apart. In our marriage, we are a team against Satan. Whenever there is something that comes up in the relationship and someone gets angry, we just have to remember that we cannot be influenced by the spirit when we are angry. We need to work things out in a careful manner, reproving seasonally or in its time very carefully and with precision and not rage, only when we are influenced by the Holy Ghost. Normally when we correct each other, we are usually mistaken. One great piece of advice that I like is, let not the sun go down upon your wrath. Once a baby comes into the picture, the mom will tend even more to the baby. This sets up for another new subset between her and the baby. For this reason men most of the time feel left out, and are not as happy with their marriage. One way to fix this is to make parenting be a joint effort. Also that bond between husband and wife needs to be nurtured even after the baby, so going on dates is very important in strengthening the relationship between husband and wife. Marital intimacy strengthens a marriage, for this reason the intimacy should not be put aside.